I’m glad that we don’t have to send our child to daycare and that we’ve been provided with a steady income through my job but it’s been really difficult to be at work when my heart’s at home and to know that my husband’s been struggling with this. I know what God’s calling is for me, but sometimes you just have to work through it until it’s possible. We did numbers, and we could do it, but he doesn’t wants. It will get better cause your kids will get older and before you know it you may have time to pursue your own goals. It has to be with over one hundred small children in one building, but it seems unnatural to me. We have a 16-month old little boy and I am due with our second child at the beginning of May. I have a loving husband and two beautiful babes and a job that allows me a bit of flexibility so I am home two afternoons a week with my kids. In order to make a beautiful pottery masterpiece ; clay must be beaten, bent & punched into its intended shape. , Girl–I could never forget! My son is 6 months, and by the time my husband and I drop him off at my mother-in-law’s and get to work, it’s a 45 minute commute. Knowing my babies have health insurance and the meds and things they need, that keeps me going through the pain and all the tears cried. It has been extremely painful and heartbreaking and unfortunately I walked it alone no friends and hubby got tired it always coming up when theres nothing to do about it. It breaks my heart, too. Perhaps most of all, the truth that we are not alone…. And to be honest, I’ve only been working for about 2 years (I graduated with my doctorate in PT in 2017). I am a working mom in Hawaii and I desperately want to be a SAHM. Rather, this post is to encourage working moms would desire to stay at home. That is so wonderful that you have Godly caregivers to help put your mind at ease a bit. It's hard on you and it's hard on your family. Oh, I prepared for a career, but once my babies arrived, I knew I wanted to be with them 24/7. Forced2workmom, I so sorry for your pain. It is so hard to explain the feeling you have when you want to stay home so badly, but know that is not the plan right now. It’s not…trust me, I’ve tried it and failed miserably. Do I regret working? I have to admit that sometimes I am jealous that he gets to stay home with her while I go to work. I want them to chose careers that can lead to jobs with more flexibility if their families financial situation calls for extra income. My heart belongs home w/ my baby girl. If we could, most of us would. My friend Lexie had come over to watch her. But my current position offers no flexibility, my bosses are not parents so they do not understand my perspective, and I don’t feel like I’m being challenged enough in this job to warrant staying in it. This was very helpful to read and I really enjoyed it. What a blessing for his grandmother to keep him–but even better how the Lord worked it out for you to now stay at home! The intimacy in my marriage is almost nonexistent because of my resentment. He loves our son very much and enjoys spending time with him but it’s not his desire to be a stay at home father. Then God surprises me with a baby, due any day, and here I am grieving because I can’t stay home with him. I know I was very lucky these years but I am so unprepared. For me, I enjoy the major satisfaction of writing a killer speech in the same way that I’m filled with joy at watching my kid take his first steps. My sons were 3 1/2 and 1 1/2 when I finally was able to stay home. At the end of May, I will be a complete SAHM and I can’t wait! Oh Leslie, I hear your pain! It really breaks my heart. Thank you for posting it. I’ve always prided myself on this. I fully support him in pursuing this passion but it’s been difficult being the primary breadwinner. This is my opinion from my 5 years and seeing many many centers, and studying in the field. She has been in daycare since she was 6 weeks old and she is now 8 months old. But I’d also never trade that time I had with Rebecca E., Audie, Leigha, Susan, Mrs. Presly, Rebecca C., Alison and Amber. God made a way for us to rent out our townhouse and get a cheaper apartment in our new city. Can’t say I have any good co-worker relationships there though! But ultimately..I think this is more a about the workforce being tough than about “think of the children”. I know this is an older post, but I needed it on this very day! The thing about being a working mom, in my opinion, is the fact that you’re never going to be able to give 100% percent to both at once. My little one is almost 7 months old and I have been feeling very upset lately about being at work. This was a great post to read. It’s hard to make changes, but I want this more th an anything and I’m praying for God to help me release my hold on the lifestyle that I am used to and help me to embrace the lifestyle I want. I am so encouraged by the optimism and faith I have seen from all the women on this post! My husband works nights and weekends so he’s home with our kids during the day. I struggled so much when my first son was born with having to return to an underpaying job that demanded so much of my time and energy. Although I’d sometimes choke down tears while driving to the school where I taught ESL, once I arrived I would be greeted by some of the most amazing, godly co-workers. It’s a great idea if you have to work and you want to be at home. Now, I doubt that I’ll ever go back to work again (our third child is due in March and my husband should graduate in a year and a half), but like you, we’ve learned from being flexible about where our income comes from. I’ve recently returned to work from my maternity leave for our second son. I cry everyday at work because I miss my baby and I feel that my true calling in life is being the best mom I can be. My job is 45 mins away from my house and when I get home in the afternoons I feel like I just don’t have enough time to love on my sweet baby between getting dinner ready and trying to settle down from the long day at work. Every mom is different, but for me, knowing myself means knowing that I need to be a working mom. Not only that, but no one can love her like I can. She’s in the same situation I am and I feel so blessed to have her. I miss her so much. I cried every day for a month when I went back to work after my oldest was born. But I was excited for my husband to have that special time with her. I’ve written a lot about pregnancy and birthing, etc…so feel free to peruse the site and ask any questions. retirement and college education funding)? Its very hard not to be pessimistic and I try to be positive, I really do. I felt horrible leaving her while she was so young then and I still do sometimes. I work full time. It makes me so sad and often I feel trapped and depressed and alone because no one seems to understand what I’m going through. Thank you so much for this post! I definitely feel God is calling me to stay home full time, and I miss my kids so much. God has been tugging at my heart to be home again. But I am aching to just stay at home and focus on raising my kids, especially now that my oldest is getting to school age and experiencing speech delays. I just need to trust that His timing is perfect. I had a job come looking for me that seemed like my dream job with just a few exceptions. It’s no secret being a working parent in the pandemic means doing multiple jobs at once. Others are able to find a great in-home or even stand alone daycare facility. To being an adult? I am devastated and depressed and it’s affecting my children. Thank you so much! They are now 6 and 8 and I have been back working about 5 years now. . We may (as I did) burst out laughing in the midst of a tense and strategic board meeting when we feel our son's foot sweep across the inside of our pregnant stomach. My oldest is 3 now and I’ve been praying this for 3 years. lol! I will forever be torn between wanting to be a SAHM and being a medical provider. Even still, with my best intentions I I agree that the systems that make a preschool run are just inevitably “un ideal” like mass lunch time and waiting for care at times when there are like too many children to one or two teachers. Now that I have my own child, I don’t want her to wait for the bathroom or her diaper change in a line of children, or eat lunch in a row of tables, or wait with a dirty nose for someone to notice. Erin, thank you! I relate completely to choking back tears, though many morning, even at age 2, I do cry on the way to work. I feel it myself recently… I find myself whispering the same questions into the difficult nights of the last few months… “What’s it really like to be a working mom? My husband has health issues that prevent him from working, although thankfully he is taking care of our daughter while I am working. Thanks for sharing your story! I’m a teacher sitting on my planning period pumping milk for my 2 month old baby girl as I just came back to work. My husband and I sat down with the bills all listed out and we are weeding out the uneccesarry things. I found your site yesterday on Pinterest, and I just love it. There are blessings to be found in this time, no matter how hard it is. It’s good to know I’m not alone. Is it how I would have wanted the provision to come at the time? I got to spend the entire summer with her. Thank you so much for allowing us, as readers, to peer into your life and learn from your wisdom and advice. I make too much money to stay home, per Hubs thinking. Thank you so much it gave me support. I was really hoping to hear more about coping with the fact that you might never get to stay home. Your Grocery Budget Toolbox: In this book, Anne Simpson arms you with resources to stretch your grocery budget and feed a family of 4 on less than $300 per month! It is so hard struggling to provide for my family. I wanted what men take for granted: to have a career and be a casual secondary parent. Thanks for sharing your journey and tips! When I found out I was pregnant again, I stayed home with my kids, but looked for work I could do from home. I know God has something planned for this season, he has already provided the perfect friend to keep my little girl, I just pray I can continue to see that and appreciate the good. But my heart breaks when I am at the office on long days and my sweet husband doesn’t think it will ever be a reality for me to stay home. I’m praying my husband will find a job, but he is disabled and struggling. Reading this reminded me of when I use to cry on my way to work and while I was pumping at work. I know it helps to know you aren’t alone! I love this post. Graduate school is … , You are so funny–and this comment made my day. But as my kids’ school schedules changed, the hours of the job quit working for me and I could not get them changed. Part time work is the worst of all possible worlds for women: it means having a job rather than a career. My husband and I plan for me to stay home next year but I didn’t feel right about leaving mid-year so here I am. He will be starting Grad School this Fall and we have another 2 years to go. Falling short. However, if I can offer a word of encouragement – God’s ways are not our ways and His thoughts are higher than our thoughts. Of course, in order to reap the financial rewards of any project, you have to do your research to make sure that your output will not far exceed the input or the added value to your home. It’s been a part of who I am for the past two years. Today will be my third day at work away from my baby. But like your situation, it brought my husband and daughter so much closer than I ever imagined possible. Staying home was never an option and having to provide everything on my own for my little angel. I on the other hand am working full time for insurance and to pay off debts but desperately want to spend days with my son. It was nice having the maternity coverage through my job the first time around, too! The advantage was that because I worked for those 6 months before our second daughter was born, I was able to get maternity benefits again, which helped during the year after her birth – when we both went back to school. I am struggling currently with working part time after having our third baby. There you are blogging about it. We are working towards it but it feels light years away. What a gift to be teaching at the same school as your child…and I love the Abeka curriculum (it’s what I personally was schooled on!). I have a 2.5 month old and a 3 year old. !I am in the very same situation with schedule. I’m so glad to hear you love your job. I am truly inspired by you and your family! But the past year this has weighed heavily on my heart- I want to be home. My husband has been the stay at home parent for two years since our daughter was born, but now I just really feel called to come home. My kids are now entering the school years and my dreams of raising my kids is becoming more and more unreachable. ... always had my sights on working from home for this reason. I want to instill in my 2 sons the importance of being financially stable before seeking the companionship of a wife and the honor of being a father. I want them to be mature & valiant providers for their futer families I think these traits are seriously lacking in today’s men. Due to our financial situation, I had to go back to work though in my heart I long to be a stay at home mom. I am hoping to provide more resources for moms who want to work at home in the future. Thank you for this post. It was years before I realized the bitterness and resentment that I allowed between us during the first years of my son’s life. I saw working moms come in flustered at 8 a.m . But I don’t think there is enough shared and said on why it is okay to be a working mom. We all want and need to hear the truth. However, I am now DREADING returning to work in January, with no end in sight. And then I feel like a jerk. Not necessarily. Keep on keeping on, Erin! It is easy to blame and hard to forgive when you are angry that every day is another day lost. You are not alone my dear! Like you, my income makes the difference more than a little-factoring in health care (which costs a lot during baby bearing years! thank you for your encouraging words. We don’t make enough for me to stay home. We prayed and planned for it. Again, thanks for posting this from a Christian perspective. Hi! It keeps me relying on The Lord for sure! Warmly, It is super handy: you can prop your phone up to watch a video and it gives you an extra grip when holding your phone (or taking selfies…admit it, we’ve all done it!) Feel confident today that the Lord has a plan in this! DREAD doesn’t even come close to how I’ve been feeling about this. I start cloth diapering and bam! It was the most incredible experience. God is good and when we follow His call on our life, amazing things begin to happen. and made me happy (because other people feel my pain of the stress of having a spouse in school and not being able to be a SAHM. Sure, I would have rather been with her myself. Looks like I’m going to have to start praying for a solution before we even have kids. Due to our fields, my dream of being a sahm will never be possible. I can’t just quit to come home until my husband finds work. I admire your story, and many of the stories that moms have posted in the comments. I miss them all day. It has been tough for me this year, I have gotten pretty depressed. Thank you for the encouragement. I am not alone!). Childcare choices will look different for every family, but it’s key to find one where you feel your child will be comfortable and loved. My heart’s desire is to stay home when hubby and I have kids. This new season in our lives has been very tough. Each tip comes with an action step to help you make real, lasting change in your family’s bottom line. be updated regularly. So here are my tips to survive as a working mom when you want to stay at home: Be Picky About Childcare It is hard enough leaving your little one. I feel like I need to be strong for the both of us in this as he seems to be so defeated but it’s been difficult. Thank you also for the encouraging post. ... working women working mom Working Moms Working Mothers Parents. Now this does have one benefit: I will be home with our children during the day. Our family is working toward the goal of me staying home and God is blessing us every step of the way. Each time getting more and more depressing. There are plenty of at-home business opportunities moms can start as well as work-at-home opportunities that let women stay home and make money too. My hubby is a produce farm and though does great work doesn’t make enough to support a family, not even enough to pay for a roof over our heads. I am glad to find so many moms who feel like I do. But that still doesn’t take the desire to stay at home away. I was a single mom before my daughter was even born! After reading your post, I am going to sit down with my husband and see if we can work toward me staying home in the future (we’ve crunched numbers, and it’s just not possible right now since I carry our health insurance at a great rate). This post is timely. You are such a great mom, and God will take care of your babies when you’re in school! Also to the moms who want to work full time outside the home-please know that you made the right decision for you and your family. This can offer a way out, but due to policies, I can’t say much here. But for mothers, the burden may be crushing. You have a calling to be the encouragement I need when I need it. It’s an awesome opportunity that God gave me, as I am able to bring in everything I make, and my children get a structured classroom and the chance to play with and make friends. But in God, all is possible, and I know he can change the situation. It sucks. )…but until then I’ll keep praying that my husband will easily find a job to make it possible for me to stay home! Making it clear that your family is a priority from the start can help open up conversations down the road. His salary does not necessarily support that desire right now so I am dragging myself into work everyday. I was really encouraged when I read, “Where there is a will, there is a way.” That was the first bit of encouragement I’ve seen in quite some time. We are very blessed that God answered our prayers for loving Christian caregivers for our sweet girl, and I am blessed with a good job and an understanding boss (who is a working mom to two little ones herself!). I love your posts, you are such a blessing! Jenni, I love your words. Don’t lose hope. This month my husband had his hours dramatically reduced at work (like working only 5 hours per week) so I am having to look for another job (when I JUST left a wonderful job) I am sad, angry, and frustrated all at the same time! On September 1 I left full time work to be a SAHM. The transition is going to be hard and my husband and I need to carefully consider our budget, but it’s worth it to raise our baby. Don’t let your degree hold you back. I work out of necessity right now and am trying to develop a solid plan to get us out of debt so that by the next baby, I will be able to stay with my little bundles of joy. But for me this is the single worst thing about being a working mom…and it seems to get tougher with each passing year. I have always felt that was my calling, but life happens and I end up working. I so wanted to be home with my family but we couldn’t afford it at that time. Plus, my calling is caring for foster children, and the entire monthly stipend has to pay for childcare! I am writing this on my last day of maternity leave. Melanie M, ou literally spoke the words out of my mouth. Those words made it feel like it was safe for me to want to go back to work and that I wasn’t a bad mom for not wanting to spend every second with my baby. Thank you so much for this post. 1. Ask questions and download or stream the entire soundtrack on Spotify, YouTube, iTunes, & Amazon. I cry daily at work, hoping to someday be a SAHM, knowing that it may never happen financially… and this has uplifted me. If we do, I believe tha work for me will be an option rather than a necessity. I love reading your posts, Erin, but I am especially thankful for this one! For us, it was my husband getting a new job and being transferred to a new city with a lower cost of living. My children are middle/ high school but they still need me. DH says, when we’re debt free, I can stay home!! We need to eat certain food at certain times, there are even times to use the bathroom, and every part of the day is scheduled. In other words, I want my sons to be able to “hold-it-down” on their own befor seeking a woman to share their lives with. I know this is not a new post but I couldn’t have come upon it at a better time. Maybe it is because all the moms ... Read More about 6 Reasons Why It’s Okay To Be A Working Mom I will say a prayer for all the mothers out there in the same boat that I am. They don’t realize that someday, they will want to marry, settle down and have kids and be able to just simply provide the bare basics for their families. My son will three months old in a few days. I love what someone posted above about praying if its Gods will for Him to make a way in His timing! And you can be a WONDERFUL working mama!! Thank you for your post. so again, thank you even from a mama who also desires to still work and also be at home , Thank you for the encouragement! I want to be the one who helps solve a problem. I worked only 2 days/week with my first child, which was such a blessing because it was the best of both worlds. I don't want to be a full time working mom : Im a sahm and my husband and i where talking about how other families operate. I like that you pointed out the positives, because I think there are some. The key advice I can give to working moms as a child care provider then is its all about the ratios. Subscribe to our parenting newsletter. I’m thankful God provided these friendships before I entered the sahm season of my life. May 2, 2014 10 Comments. My faith in God has been greatly tested and at times I have completely given up. I was blessed to be able to take 12 weeks maternity leave and then part time for the first year with Noah. I’m a new mama to a sweet 5 month old girl. I Want And Don't Want To Be A Working Mom. I think the key is both parents being on the same page and wanting the same thing then both will be willing to make the sacrifices if the goal is to have mom stay at home (if possible). I have twin girls and I’m pregnant with our third, a boy. How wonderful! I then attended classes during a missionary training from the time she was 7-9 months old. I will use this experience to teach my kids. It sounds like you are already an amazing one!!! Remember, God is the crazy one!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Its difficult especially when I see so many other new moms around me that were able to quit to stay home or at least just work part time. Now I have to move past the lonlies (I know it’s only for a short period of time). I care about me, and my career. Yay for dental insurance! I’ve been a working mom for over two years now. And we want to have another one and I am getting older. Keeping the faith, and ever grateful for the encouragement! Our pastor preached about the temptation of Christ this past weekend, and one thing he said was, “No matter what situation you find yourself in, God has placed you there.” That really challenged me. Do you know any friends or family that work outside the home that you can share this post with as an encouragement to them? One that is taken one step at a time. Then I breastfed her again as soon as I arrived at the sitter’s house to pick her up. I know this was posted some time ago, but I read it just now and I appreciated it very much. If you were at the party the next day wondering why the curtains of our room were closed... wonder no more! Then there are those moms who want to earn money but can't imagine re-joining the rat race for a typical 9–5 job. Zeenat is a Medical Doctor on the front lines of Covid-19, Meet Amina, Director and Co-Founder of Roots Of Health in Palawan, Philippines. He got a raise earlier this year so I’m able to work 30-35 hours a week now instead of 40+. The following tips might help make the transition you are dreading just a little bit smoother: We sought out an individual from our church. This post hits home for me. . ... We Want to Hear From Working Moms. I work full time as a Rn. I was very blessed to have my mother take care of him for the first 9 months, and we found a great sitter since then. I am sorry for knocking childcare, I have been to many quality centers, and nothing is as good a quality as mom or dad or family. My husband works various part time jobs including third shift and is in the process of trying to get his photography business off the ground. I’m praying for you today, for HOPE and for healing. Of corse not but then again, who ever sticks to Gods plan all the time anyway? While it’s hard being away from our family, we can see God’s working through everything! I was so happy to find this list of women who have the same struggle! Their stories were beautiful. They have given me such hope to be a sahm again. She is five yrs old and very helpful and smart. I wish we could have coffee together right now because I believe YOU, too, can confidently create a healthier home for your loved ones--without becoming exhausted or overwhelmed. I do pray for this faithfully and know that God does have a plan. I want my son to have an up-close view of a woman working outside the home. I feel like I’m alone in my mission to get to stay home. I am currently an ESL teacher and my heart breaks every day I leave my son to go to work. I’m so sorry, Bobbie Jean! But, I also want to be on a team with other adults working toward a common goal. Not everyone lives the same life and everyone’s situations are different. It's messy to keep your head above water when your ceiling falls in at 3am and you have to just get up and on with it. . When looking at it realistically, it is the best for our current situation, but I can’t wait until our situation changes and allows me to do what my heart wants, which is to stay home with our baby. So many bloggers who write about staying home seem to do so from a perspective of passing judgment on moms who work. But I have neither. I pray you will see this dream realized one day…but know you are not alone and God hears your prayers! Be Blessed. It gave me the motivation I needed to find a better paying job in my chosen profession and I started to feel less stressed while at home with my family. Thanks for writing this! As you stated, I will definitely teach my children that the choices they make at such a young age will follow them throughout their life. But at the end the potter paints it into a beautiful & strong object. In the lead up to the inaugural Working Mothers Expo, we surveyed over 1,000 moms and found that: A few years ago I had the opportunity to interview 100 moms from 17 countries around the world. Very encouraging blog! My son is almost a year and I had no choice but to work after he was born – we needed two incomes. We are a big, government funded center. That’s when I have to go back to, God is always good. Thanks for this post and for making me feel like being at home with my babies is a reachable goal. There is not enough time in the day to do it at work. And I don’t look back with regret, but I think about all God taught me. If it were not for my godly and loving husband as well as wonderful in laws and parents, I wouldn’t know what I would do. I so desire to be a SAHM but I am not . Working moms will do their best to go to everything they can for their little one, but sometimes a really important meeting or task comes up at work that can't be ignored. I wanted nothing more than to be at home with her. I hope you see this dream a reality soon! It feels like Everyone I know who wants to stay home does and those who work really want to. I was unemployed for four months and we were already in so much debt. Why I Want to be a Working Mom. Watch trailers & learn more. We can do it. tunefind Hi Erin, thank you for your post as many other readers have commented. Been here 10 years in a job I don’t feel any reward from. Thank you for this. However, I am reminded that I am blessed to have such a wonderful job and I am also able to have summers off, winter and spring break off as well as sick time and vacation time . Who knows…maybe my husband’s time on earth is coming to an end and God knew that so he allowed me to remain employed so I don’t fall into financial ruin and that I will be glad he had those first 3 years to be able to spend with our girls. I have three children 4 and under. Then he had a job for a year, but it didn’t work out, so we were left unemployed again. In the complicated world we live in, it’s good to find simple solutions. My husband is trying to finish his Bachelors, but at 1-2 classes a semester we still have a couple of years. On the other hand, if you want to stay home with your kids, try to ignore external pressures to do otherwise. It's a constant game of juggling, and working moms have to live with the fact that they chose work over their little one's choir concert. This post gives me hope that I will be able to find the positive and recognize how God will use that time to grow our relationships (with each other, as well as others) and me, personally. We have our first little one on the way that’s due in April, and we aren’t sure yet how we will handle me working or not. I didn’t realize all of these blessings until I read your post, and it has encouraged me to continue with my personal mantra “always stay positive”. I want to be the one to speak up when I have a great idea. Thanks for sharing! As much as I would still love to be home, this is our reality right now, and it’s necessary for my family. Not many fathers ever get to be stay-at-home dads, but my husband did! I know my calling from our gracious Lord is to provide love and compassion to this world when secretly I so badly want to concentrate it only on my children. And like your situation, my family wouldn’t survive without my income. I just feel guilty and terrible and I don’t know how to cope with it. I came across this blog in Pinterest and I’m so happy I did. I went to my manager at work to see if I could work a flexible schedule and was told “no.” I am really disappointed. On my health? Luckily my husband is a roofer, and being laid off when it is snowing and icy, he gets to stay home with baby girl. “Flip” used items. It’s a source of frustration to him as well, so I need to be diligent in prayer about my attitude towards our situation. Nearly impossible some days. Working mom of three, Meredith Soleau, suggests telling your boss that you need to make it to all school functions, no matter what. Do I feel frustrated and overwhelmed with my roles of wife, mom, and employee sometimes? But He has chosen not to provide that for us. However, doing the best job possible takes away from my own daughter. I feel it was also written for me. I have been praying so much for months but I feel lost. I want to be a sahm. Thank you for sharing this. I am a working mama whose heart, and God’s call on my life, is to be a SAHM. Most importantly, I want to shout to all of the next generation (not just my kids) to AVOID BUILDING YOUR LIFE ON 2 INCOMES; IT’SA NASTY TRAP!!!!!! You are not alone! too much drama in the workplace. It has given me the reassurance I’ve been praying for. Part of being a working mom is a lot of sacrifices you really need to know how to manage your time, learn how to handle your emotions and most of all you need to show and let your kids feel that they are the most important person in the world, that no matter what they will be our top priority. Its so hard to trust God when he is not giving you the desires of your heart, but I do trust HIM and pray that my desire becomes his desire. How much of my decision making rests on what I think others expect of me? I just found your blog Erin when searching for advice for Christian working mothers. I am thankful to have stumbled across this page. Our biggest hurtle is/will be health insurance. My job is gracious and allows me three pumping periods, which I use to nurse my baby girl (I live very close to my job). We may find ourselves wanting to find the time to play Rummikub with our seven year old. Here you are again! We are surviving on mostly my income alone so I don’t how I could bea Single SAHM and still take care of her and I. I will continue to pray on it. Never stop learning new skills. That’s when I truly realized my desire to be a stay at home mom. We make mistakes and don’t fallow Gods plan; but just like the potter can make the necessary adjustments along the way. Do you have any advice on planning for the futue (i.e. I feel a desperate urgency to stay home and am struggling with anxiety and depression, which I never had before she was born. It’s nice to know that at least one mom knows what it’s like and got her wish granted finally. It all hurts so much, and I can’t help but really wonder, is this all there is to life? Nothing makes me happy anymore. I know this post was written sometime ago but I just ran across it. Most flexible mother I ’ m thankful for this one!!!!!... Searching for advice for working mamas within the same page and do what visualize! 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